‘Every man I meet is my master in some point, and in that I learn of him’, said Ralph Waldo Emerson. This is a quote I came across in Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday.
I am working with a colleague who is so great at making plans, documenting them, presenting them and ultimately getting the approvals from leadership. She’s quick and efficient and so commanding.
And I feel a bit intimidated by her skills, for I feel I have none of these. Well, that’s not 100% true but I do struggle getting initiatives planned out and documented in a way that others can understand and align to.
And I can easily slip into feeling jealous of her, or perhaps even a little threatened, especially if I let my ego’s arguments sway me. My ego wants me to be the best at everything so when I find someone who is better, I am feel bad about myself.
If I keep listening to my ego, I will miss the opportunity to learn from this person, so that I can get better.
If I humble myself and realize I don’t have to be great at everything, my only response is to keep growing by learning from other experts.
Try this ONE thing
Do you have someone that threatens you? Figure out what it is about them and then learn from them. It’ll feel so much better than resenting them.
Want to experience coaching? I like to start with a deep, get-to-know-you conversation to see if we are right for each other. Sometimes we talk for one or two hours at no charge. I have no goal except to bring about transformation. Together we work on the lies, the self-deception, the fears of the power you perceive to be outside yourself. We work on your difficulties in making decisions and your inability thus far to make bold choices in life and to follow through and trust yourself completely to do so.
The irony for some people is that the very thing that they want the coaching for (an indecisive, half-hearted life) is what’s keeping them from deciding whether to get coaching.
When you’re ready, reach out @ karen.laidlaw.theONEthing@outlook.com. Meanwhile, enjoy the blog!
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